Hey! Don't say that again!

How come we all speak about ourselves so poorly? I mean women- not men. In my business, I talk to women all the time and I invaribly hear this negative sort of 'self-speak'. I just can't stand it. Is it an endeavour to make the listener respond with a positive counter-balance to make the speaker feel better? I don't know- but if you do this to manipulate that kind of response, I think it is really a crappy thing to do.

I wonder how many of these women who speak about themselves in such a negative way realize how it affects the people around them. Take, if you will, their children. I would imagine that a child that overhears this type of comment will have less respect for their mother as the mother demonstrates a lack of respect for herself. Or maybe the girl-child even begins to speak about herself that way. What mother's heart would not break if she realized that she had cause this?

How about the husband who looses interest- just a little bit at a time- because of the erosion the wife causes to the picture he has of her in his mind and in his heart.

What about the friend who hears you then starts to share this behaviour and the cycle starts in her life.

I wish there was some way for women to look at themselves and see the positive and the negative equally and more realistically.
Hey- I know that when I look in the mirror I can pick out quite a few flaws that I could focus on. But why bother when someone has to protect me? Be your own champion! And don't say that negative thing about yourself again. Think before you speak...